Wednesday, December 21, 2011

Some thoughts on Christmas

This is the first Christmas I can remember that I have not been stressed out and grouchy in these last few days of Advent.  I think a number of things have contributed to that:

- I got the majority of my shopping done before Thanksgiving (and ordered most of it on Amazon).
- Almost all of the gifts are wrapped, thanks to the youth group girls at our church who offered free babysitting last Friday night! 
- We are not traveling anywhere.
- The kid's Christmas programs are at the same place, at the same time.
- Matt has off on Thursday and Friday, yippee!
- We have been the most consistent in our Jesse Tree devotions this year, which has helped center my heart.  I also think having most of my shopping done before Advent helped that too.
- I have miraculously been able to keep my house in order, in other words, I can see the majority of my kitchen island!  This has helped me feel more peace with all the extra things going on. 

This stress-free season has also allowed me to reflect on aspects about Christmas that I have not been able to process in the past.  One of those things is gift-giving.  Every year I enter the Christmas season with a sense of guilt- I LOVE buying gifts for my kids and my family.  I love it.  And I have felt, for many years, shame about that.  I read blogs about families who don't buy each other gifts but instead buy a goat for a kid in Africa.  Or I talk to friends who totally down play the presents and get their kids one present each, as to not spoil them.  There are the Advent conspiracy videos and the guilt-ridden ads of starving children and commercialism.  I read or hear these things and I cringe inside, not because they are wrong but because it makes me feel like I may be doing something wrong.  So, every year I push through it and I act generously to my kids and my family and I try to justify to myself why I love giving gifts so much.

Then last weekend, as Matt and I wrapped the gifts for our kids, he remarked, "You sure are going for the 'wow factor' this year, aren't you?"  He didn't say it in a condemning way, but just remarking on the abundance of gifts.  And I replied to him, "Yes, yes I am."  And I didn't feel guilty about it, I felt joy.  Then I read this blog, posted on facebook by a friend, about gift-giving at Christmas and it explained so well how I have been feeling these past few years but have not been able to articulate it.  In summary, God has "lavished" us with more grace than we know what to do with.  He loves us more than we can ever imagine and we don't deserve any of it.  He also tells us to love each other as he has loved us.  Of course, he wasn't specifically talking about presents when he said that but can't giving gifts be a reflection of our love, an out-pouring of the abundance of grace we have been shown? 

There also needs to be some intentional thinking about this physical manifestation of God's love.  We don't buy our kids a lot of toys through out the year, unless they get a reward for something or use saved allowance money.  Toys and stuff are not the mode of operation around here to get kids to behave or to feel happy.  So, when once a year they come down stairs to a tree overflowing with gifts it is special and meaningful and not just something they feel they are entitled to.  I also try to be very intentional in the gifts I give.  I usually buy one thing that they specifically asked for and the other gifts are things that I think will help develop talents and hobbies or things that I think they would like to do (which is the fun part!).  We discourage a lot of talk about what they want and don't have them make lists. 
We do Advent devotions with the kids (they love the Jesse Tree!) and going to a Christian school helps focus them on the meaning of Christmas.

But, they are kids and they love getting new toys.  And I don't think there is anything wrong with that.  Of course, we don't create materialism in our kids, it's already there.  There are ways we can feed it but there are ways that we can wisely use gifts to show our love to our kids.  God is not stingy with his love for us, and so it brings us joy to be generous to the ones we love too.  I understand that generosity looks different in every family and wisdom needs to be exercised to spend within your means but there does not need to be guilt in giving gifts to our family.

I also recognize there are issues I didn't address in this post: consumerism and the poor.  That is a whole other post.  But I have been reflecting on those things as well and there are ways to address those things and still be generous to our loved ones. 

I pray you experience the great joy and peace that comes with the greatest gift we could ever receive.  And I pray that in the overflow of His grace, you can give generously, whatever that means for you, this Christmas. 
And that you can take joy in the smiles of the those who receive from you. 



Sullivan's Mom said...

We could really spend quite a bit of time beating ourselves up for so many things....I think it's wise (and relaxing) to enjoy this season of gift giving. As an aside, I do think that each child is different - my own charming son HATES giving gifts - he complained that he had to give gifts to his teachers! He wanted to keep them to himself. So I think it's important to practice the art of giving and sharing with our kids, and find some way to incorporate that in this season as well. I know that for him, he'd be just as thrilled with one present as he would with 15. Now, get him to give anything to anybody else? That's a whole different story.

Kit said...

AMEN! Jane, this makes me want to cheer. Thanks!

Mrs.B said...

I like the way you think about Christmas...I have very similar thoughts.

Hope you write more soon...

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